Daily Mess

I have caught a few episodes of Jon & Kate Plus 8 and all I have to say is Jon sure is a whiney little bitch.  Seriously!  It is like his manhood panties are all in a knot because his wife is a take charge kind of woman.  Boo Hoo you don’t like the press, well I have news for you, that horse has already left the barn and there is no going back.  Embrace WHAT popularity has given you,  such as the means to insure the financial future of your entire family, the means to travel and see and do things you would never have the opporunity to do.

Be PROUD of your wife who is flourishing and is the woman you would be proud to have your girls grow up to be.  I get the fact you want to play “Me Tarzan, You Jane” and go hunt and forage for your family in the IT world, but truth be told, your job would not provide the means to give your children the life they are having now, so suck it up!

“I can’t be Jon, I have to be Jon & Kate Plus 8″  No kidding Einstein.  Who in the hell has time to be themselves with 4 kids let alone 8 kids and just in case no one has told you, fatherhood and marriage is about sacrifice so step up to the plate and stop making this all about what YOU want.

Now I don’t know what you did, but whatever it was, you messed up.  Not only did you mess up, but you sat there during your show and had attitude.  You did not seem sad or sincere about what you had done.   You would think, since YOU messed up that maybe you would be falling all over yourself trying to make things better, but you gave everyone the idea that you didn’t give a damn.

Watch your Hawaii show where you renew your vows and you both talk about how you want your children to know you will be together.  How you will weather the storms and make things ok, for them.  What a crock of horse shit.  What I got out of the show is “I’m not a happy boy because people recognize me and it makes it harder getting into trouble without Kate finding out…and I love and adore my kids, but damn, would rather be at work doing IT for a pittance of what the wife is doing for the family….after all it is ALL ABOUT ME!

Cry me a river.  As for Kate I applaud her.  She is a strong woman, who makes mistakes, is militant in her beliefs and the running of her household.  To remain sane she HAS to be militant.  She is thriving!  She has become the woman who children can look up to.  She has embraced the children, the hectic life…she thought she was safe, she thought no matter what, their family would always be intact.  Poor dear.  All I can say is this, if Jon BOY wants to step up to the plate and become a real man his kids can be proud of, give him another chance.  If he wants to walk, then let him, but know in your heart you have the strength, talent and business sense to take care of yourself and your children on your own.

Men can be such asses.

I can’t speak for everyone, but I find as I get older I get more cynical and usually with good reason.  I found that I spent the majority of my life trying to please others  and the harder I tried, the less people were pleased, the more they wanted the more critical they were of me.  I am starting to find out that in the end, you need to please yourself, give yourself some slack and take care of YOU because usually, you are the only one that will.  At some point we have to let go of the guilt, tell ourselves we deserve to be happy and do things that make us happy and finally allow ourselves to be happy.

We need to stop seeking approval or permission to enjoy ourselves and have fun and to stop giving ourselves the short end of the stick.  You are a valuable person, you are just important as everyone else, you deserve to enjoy this short life you have.  Do something every day just for YOU.  Whether it is a quiet corner to read for an hour, donning the gardening gloves and enjoying the garden or taking a hot bubble bath.  Every one of us deserves at least a few moments per day to reflect on their lives, reflect on the future and be happy with the person we are.  So what are you going to do today JUST for you?  For me, I ate dinner alone on the patio in the fresh air.  No noise, no interruptions, just a relaxing 20 minutes that made me feel refreshed.

In a plaza not too far from our house there is a little pet supply store we purchase our higher end dog food from.  An elderly lady owns the store and she has a friend of hers help out at the store when she can’t be there.  We have shopped there for approx 7 years and although we may be able to buy our brand of dog food slightly cheaper elsewhere we go there to show our support for small local businesses and also because the ladies are so sweet.

When I went in today to pick up some dog food I noticed that each time I go in the store there are less and less products on the shelf.  There are empty spots and where there was once 10 bags of each kind of dog food now there is only one or two.  The owner and I started talking about the economy and how difficult things were.  Many of her customers had down graded the dog food they buy from the pemium brands she sells to the cheap dog food sold at grocery stores.  She said that 2 of her customers had already come back because they found that the cheap dog food was full of fillers and their dogs ate more to get the same nutrition so in the end, the cheap stuff wasn’t as cheap after all.  The problem was, most of the people that had left hadn’t figured that out yet.

Personally I would go without something in order to keep my dogs on the food they now eat simply because they are all extremely healthy and well, I don’t want to take a risk of a sick dog.  The owner said she wasn’t really making anything at the store anymore and they had cut back on stock drastically simply because she could not afford to keep much stock on hand.  I was deeply saddened and hope that she can make it through this economic down turn without closing her store.

I think it is important for people, even in tough times to try to support the little guy.  Yes, you may have to pay a buck or two more for something and money is tight, but sometimes it pays in the long run to cut money from something else in an effort to keep the little guy in business.

Now I may not be able to personally keep this small pet supply store in business, but I have decided that I will make an effort to support local small businesses more, and through my articles and blogs, try to convince others to do the same.  If we all make an effort we can save these mom and pop stores, the stores that actually care ab9out you as a customer.  Stand up and be counted as a supporter of local business.